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Low self-confidence

Common symptoms of low self-confidence or low self-esteem

If you've started to notice some of the symptoms we've listed below, we may be able to help.


  • "No one likes me"
  • "I’m not good enough"
  • "Others are much better at everything compared to me"
  • "I'm useless"
  • "I'm not worthy"
  • "I don’t deserve any better"
  • You're spending more time alone
  • You're sleeping too much or too little
  • You've stopped doing the things you enjoy
  • You put others before yourself
  • You don’t express your opinions
  • You're over caring and over helpful
  • You find it hard to say no to people
  • People take advantage of your good nature
  • Low
  • Upset
  • Tearful
  • Sad
  • Vulnerable
  • Worthless
  • Useless

Possible causes of low self-confidence

  • Stressful life events – these can be unwelcome or traumatic, such as being bullied at work, getting divorced, or being attacked/abused
  • Negative thinking – sometimes you may start to think negatively due to an event or situation, this can then become a habit and part of your general outlook. You may not even be aware of how negatively you were thinking or how this is impacting on you
  • Lack of interest or reduction of pleasurable activities – sometimes, due to circumstances, you may reduce activities that you gained pleasure, satisfaction or achievement from. If you don't increase these activities again and forget just how much you benefited from them, you might feel unable to reengage with these activities.
  • Anger – if you struggle to express your feelings, particularly anger, you may find yourself low in self-esteem/confidence as a result of not expressing yourself in a safe and responsible way
  • Repeated failure or rejection – if you've tried your best at something and you keep failing, or you feel rejected from an experience, you may develop low self-esteem. This can happen in a variety of situations, such as applying for jobs, taking exams for school or university, or in social circles/group

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We worked with our partner Insight Healthcare to create this short guide. Always speak to your GP if you feel like you could be suffering from a serious mental health condition.