Some of the common symptoms of low self-esteem/confidence
Have you been feeling?
Have you had thoughts like?
‘No one likes me’
‘I’m not good enough’
‘Others are much better at everything compared to me’
‘I am useless’
‘I am not worthy’
‘I don’t deserve any better’
Have you noticed?
you are spending more time alone
you are sleeping too much or too little
you have stopped doing the things you enjoy
you put others before yourself
you don’t express your opinions
you are over caring and over helpful
you find it hard to say no to people
people take advantage of your good nature
Possible causes of low self-esteem/confidence
stressful life events – these can be unwelcome or traumatic, such as being bullied at work, getting divorced, or being attacked/abused
negative thinking – sometimes you may start to think negatively due to an event or situation, this can then become a habit and part of your general outlook; you may not even be aware of how negatively you were thinking or how this is impacting on you
lack of interest or reduction of pleasurable activities – sometimes, due to circumstances, you may reduce activities that you gained pleasure, satisfaction or achievement from; you then do not increase these activities as soon as possible, instead you may forget just how much you benefited from these activities, causing you to have a lack of interest in doing them.
anger – if you struggle to express your feelings particularly anger you may find yourself low in self-esteem/confidence as a result of not expressing your anger or frustration in a safe and responsible way
repeated failure or rejection – if you have tried your best at something and you keep failing, or you feel rejected from an experience, you may develop low self-esteem; this can occur in a variety of situations, such as applying for jobs, taking exams for school or university, or in social circles/group